I am tired but I am happy. I woke up at 5.30am and hugged my sister goodbye as she left for the airport. The goodbyes are always fucking awful, but they only happen because I am lucky enough to have hellos. I know that now.
I am tired because I spent the weekend celebrating my birthday. A big birthday. My 30th birthday. 14 of my friends, including my sister who made the transatlantic journey to be with me, came away to a snowy cottage in Ontario, Canada. It was beautiful. We ate, we hiked, we drank and we danced as we collectively welcomed in the next BECADE. Yes. Becade. I’m running with that.
My life isn’t as I imagined it would be at 30 years old. Sure. But it is great. It is great and I have learned so much and feel happier and healthier than I ever did at 21. Every person’s journey is different… but here are 30 of the most valuable things I have learned from then to now.
30 – Ask for help when you need it.
29 – Very few people will argue with a smile. If they do, they probably aren’t worth the argument.
28 – You don’t really need more than four alcoholic drinks on a night out. Oh, and shots are ALWAYS a bad idea. For me, anyway.
27 – Drink lots of water. I can’t stress how important this is. You will look better and feel better.
26 – I used to think people were twats when they said things like “you are what you eat”, but it turns out it is true. What you eat can and will affect your mood. Don’t expect to function the same on a cheese burger as you would a balanced meal. For me, the best meal for non extravagant days is rice, vegetables and protein. (Obviously this all goes out the window when the food is free!)
25 – Walking for an hour or more each day will keep you physically and mentally fit.
24 – People are worth a second chance but rarely are they worth a third.
23 – Trust your instincts. The answers are right there if you accept what your gut is telling you.
22 – Judging others is only a reflection of your own insecurities.
21 – Creative projects are only worth perusing if you enjoy them. If you don’t love the process, you’ll never love the outcome.
20 – If you don’t like your job, you can and should change it.
19 – It is absolutely okay to start again. In fact, pressing reset might be the best thing you will ever do.
18 – Some people are the creators of their own misfortune. These people tend to be people with secrets and / or people who are dishonest with you. If you can’t trust them, they aren’t worth your time. They will be their own undoing.
17 – Be good to the people who are good to you.
16 – People who will tell it to you straight, even at the risk of hurting your pride, are very valuable.
15 – Get to bed before 11 and wake up an hour earlier than you intended. In this time you can read, mediate, take a long shower, make a better breakfast or even watch a show on Netflix. Trust me you will feel better for it.
14 – Turmeric is a gift from the Gods.
13 – If your flight is significantly delayed it is worth paying for the airport lounge. Trust me.
12 – Age isn’t a measure of success. Success is a measure of success. Success can come at any age.
11 – Travel is one of the best things you can do for your soul. Whatever your budget, I think you should travel…be it to the next city if you have never been, or across an ocean to a place that scares but excites you.
10 – Going solo to an event or travelling alone can actually be pretty great and present opportunities you wouldn’t spot if you were in your comfort zone.
9 – Moving far away from home will enrich your life but divide your heart.
8 – Inconsistent people are my least favourite people. To that note, unpredictable people can be very dangerous.
7 – The people who matter will always be there no matter what.
6 – The kindness of strangers will surprise and delight you.
5 – You are capable of change at any age. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
4 – Life expectations are only guided fantasies. In reality you have little to no control over grand plans.
3 – Do not worship at the altar of fear. Fear will fuck you up harder than any bout of misfortune you may encounter.
2 – Surrendering the outcome to the universe will set you free.
1 – Being happy is more important than being right.
Thank you to everyone who has helped me make it this far. I cannot wait to see what the next Becade has in store! I think I’ve got this.